Personal Psychology Series - Understanding Our Personal Psychology [2]

The Desire To Understand Our Personal Psychology Is Usually Activated By A Personal Challenge. Suffering it seems is the only sure way for the soul to get our attention and make us, yes make us address what needs to be dealt with in our personal lives. If we don’t listen to the little messages, then it is likely we will be stopped short by some aspect of our  physicality or an interpersonal challenge that makes a dominant impact in our lives. 

Likewise we seek to understand our personal psychology when we come to a place when life does not work anymore. We enter into the wilderness when nothing is of interest. Some might call this depression. It is of sorts, and no amount of tranquillisers will fix it. The answers to all our challenges can be found when we seek to understand our personal narrative. Hence the value of developing a closer relationship with yourself. As we grow in our understanding of ourselves, we can heal those aspects of our personal domain that give rise to dis-ease. The two core ingredients that you can supply to yourself are; your commitment to self, and making space in your life to honour your commitment to your self.

Spending time alone enables one to begin a conversation with ones often neglected self. Journalling is an excellent method of communion, particularly hand writing which taps into the right side of the brain which is where your creativity resides. Writing, painting or drawing allows one to release the top of mind thoughts, that in times of angst, would otherwise repeat theme-selves over and over and yes over again. Thereafter one has clarity to think more deeply about the essence of the particular matter at hand. It is in these moments alone that we give ourselves permission to be our authentic self. We say what we feel, we rage at ‘perceived’ injustice or unfairness, we cry and having let go, we feel better for it. What might you do next?

I posit that this is a pivotal moment and what you choose to do with it, indicates your strength of commitment to your self. In letting go of your top of mind thinking and feelings, you can now ask yourself more penetrating questions. Questions like why? And it’s not why did a particular person or organisation do this or that. The whys of anothers action can be very painful and the less one needlessly dwells on a matter the better. That said, shed your tears. Don’t hold them back. You will know the right moment to rise up above any given situation and explore your inner world to ascertain what exactly gave rise to the upset.

In terms of understanding our personal psychology we want to ask questions of our deepest selves. What upset me so? What is the belief I have of my self, or what have I experienced that this particular situation reminded me of? Why did that reminder resulted in reacting, rather than responding? Was I feeling particularly vulnerable at the time? Is this feeling something I have felt before? Where in the body do I feel the distress most? Keep asking yourself questions. You are the only one that can provide the understanding and insights into your personal psychology and therefore only you can provide the answers to what ails you. When you keep on caring about why, you will find that realisations dawn upon you. These are precious moments indeed.

You may pose a question to your self and ponder upon the question for the next few days. Pondering is about asking a particular question and musing about what the answers might be. Pondering is asking a question to yourself with the expectation that you will come to an understanding of the truth of any matter. And remember, it’s your truth that matters. Yes, seek out assistance as required, however, I suggest you first seek out assistance from your good self.

Like many, I have stumbled through life the best I could. It’s only in my later chapters that I discovered a myriad of methods from people who likewise have stumbled through life, found a way and then shared what worked for them - just as you will. Methods like Julia Cameron's morning pages which maintains your clarity. Likewise

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), energy healing and Reiki, are practices you can learn so that you can clear the dense energy that arises in times of angst.That’s the gold in getting to Know Thy-Self. Everything is available to you, but you must reach and ask for what you want.

For myself the paces in between ‘angst’ are getting longer and I find I resolve issues as between me and me more quickly. Yet, I still fall down pot holes sometimes. Big ones no matter all the self work I have undertaken. Am I a slow learner? In pondering this I have come to see that it is easy to lose focus. In certain situations, I need to maintain constant vigilance and that requires discipline to honour what matters most. What matters most is my commitment to my self to rise above whatever I encounter and not permit another in combination with my unconscious self, to determine my life experiences. 

Understanding our personal psychology is a life times work. Yet when we make a commitment to understand our personal psychology, our life changes. Gradually you will find that what once mattered does not any more. In fact you will find that situations that once caused you grief, disappear from view, as do people. There will always be new challenges however once we begin to purify our emotional bodies we find that our challenges are more manageable. Remember that life does not put anything in front of us, that we are unable to handle. To come back to the statement of ‘understanding your personal psychology’, it’s essentially about wanting to.

Date: May 13 2020

Authoress: Carol Lorraine

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